A close relationship is something we all want. Two relationship experts, John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman, studied relationships for over 40 years. They found that the friendship a couple has really is the foundation of the relationship.
Below are some questions created by the Gottmans to help you think about your relationship:
We enjoy doing even the smallest things together, like folding laundry or watching TV.
True
False
I look forward to spending my free time with my partner.
True
False
At the end of the day my partner is glad to see me.
True
False
My partner is usually interested in hearing my views on things.
True
False
I really enjoy discussing things with my partner.
True
False
My partner is one of my best friends.
True
False
I think my partner would consider me a very close friend.
True
False
We love just talking to each other.
True
False
When we go out, the time goes very quickly.
True
False
We always have a lot to say to each other.
True
False
We have a lot of fun together in our everyday lives.
True
False
We are spiritually very compatible.
True
False
We tend to share the same basic values in life.
True
False
We like to spend time together in similar ways.
True
False
We really have a lot of interests in common.
True
False
We have many of the same dreams and life goals.
True
False
We like to do a lot of the same things.
True
False
Even though our interests are somewhat different, I enjoy my partner’s interests.
True
False
Whatever we do together we usually tend to have a good time.
True
False
My partner tells me when s/he has had a bad day.
True
False
What do you think? Do you have a close relationship?
